Are Blowjobs Why Men Cheat?

Does a lack of oral sex push guys to step out?

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No more blowjobs at home.

They beg and plead, but their wives won’t comply.
“No way am I doing that!”
”Get away from me!”
”In your dreams!”

For many men, it’s the reason they cheat. It’s the heart of their most memorable sexual experiences. It’s in their dreams and fantasies.

It’s usually a big component of why men step out.

Are blowjobs why men cheat?

Guys on r/adultery answered:

• 100% this. It’s not the be-all and end-all, but when it’s offered willingly and passionately and without having to ask, there’s nothing like it. I’ll never forget the first time I was offered one by a former affair partner, the first time we met in person, too. I was not at all expecting it, but it was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had.

• I had precisely zero of these in 28 years of marriage. So, post-marriage was, um, miraculous? And yes, my wife got all the oral she ever wanted.

• The Blow Job is probably the first thing to go in a stale or failing relationship. So, the fact that someone else is willing is a big turn-on for me. The blow job itself is not even a consideration. The reason behind why that person wants to give the blow job is the epitome of sex for me. The reality is it does not need to be a blow job at all. It needs to be enthusiastic enjoyment of each other — the rest is just fun.

• Many married men seldom, if ever, receive a good BJ. Part of the reason I’m here.

• As our bedroom went dead, of course, BJs were the first thing to go, and she made her aversion to them quite clear. Since then, I think a woman’s willingness to give a BJ has become a barometer of sorts of how sexual she is/may be. It also feels more like an acceptance of me and my sexuality.

Women on r/adultery answered:

• I love giving my married man a blow job! I often joke that I could do it all day, which I would enjoy. I’ve sucked some dicks in the past, but I never wanted it as much as I enjoy sucking his. I love how vocal and appreciative he is of it, too. It turns me on knowing how turned on he is by it. He swears I give the best head he’s ever had… and yes, you can receive bad blow jobs — just like us girls can receive some pretty terrible head in return. Luckily, he enjoys going down on me just as much. It’s always who rips who’s pants down first to get down there!

• I think there’s a pretty significant difference between the kind of stimulation you can give someone orally/manually and the kind that you get from PIV. If you’re giving good head, you’re gonna be using your hands in multiple ways and places. PIV is great, but the types of sensations are more limited.

• It’s something one does entirely for the man’s pleasure. Plus, it’s not something that every woman loves to do, and it’s one of the first things to go when partners get too comfortable or complacent. Many men aren’t getting a good head on the regular, and they miss it.

Blowjobs or oral pleasure is a “giving” rather than receiving act. A lot of guys looking for an affair partner feel “neglected,” So finding someone willing to provide you with pleasure in a giving situation is something that helps to fulfill both the physical and emotional lack of attention that men want. This is where the appeal comes from.

My guy said his ex-wife wouldn’t go near his cock. “She said had gagging issues,” he said. “That’s ridiculous,” I answered. “She could give you a hand job, at least!”

“She wanted nothing to do with my dick,” he joked.
”She didn’t know what she was missing!”

That’s the crux. The low-libido partner doesn’t want anything to do with giving pleasure. No hand jobs, no blow jobs, and no penetration. Nothing. All pleasure denied. Especially the enjoyable blow job. That’s too much, altogether.

It’s the canary in the coal mine. Once BJs are dead and gone, your sex life is probably going extinct, too.

Are blow jobs why men cheat?

Short answer.
Yes.

Tell me what a good BJ means to you in the comments.