Do you have the type of affair where it’s making love?
Or fucking?
Maybe a little of both?
That’s the sweet spot, right?
There are times when you look into his eyes and see the dark passion that he needs to take you — rough and fast. Other times, you have sweet, lingering eye contact — making love and having a deep connection with each other.
Redditors responded:
“AP and I have days where we are fucking, days where we are making love, and times when we are doing both. Fucking days are normally rougher and kinkier. Ass slapping, hair pulling, ass play, with lots of grunting and dirty talk.”
“Making love is slower. We spend lots of time in positions where we are facing each other and kissing. We talk a lot about how much we care about each other and miss each other when we are apart. He usually talks about how much he loves being with me. He caresses my face and hair. We hold hands.”
“Sometimes, it is a little rougher and feels like he is scratching an animalistic need…but he is always about kissing me and making me feel wanted and taken care of.”
“We fuck, and sometimes we make love, all in the span of a couple of hours we spend together.”
“I don’t think they are necessarily mutually exclusive.”
“I love fucking my AP but making love to her is so much sweeter sometimes. There’s no rhyme or reason to it. Things naturally progress in one of two ways. Either I’m pulling her hair, spitting in her mouth, slapping her around, and having my way with her, or I’m holding her hand, staring into her eyes, caressing her, whispering into her ear that I love her. They are both fun in their own right. We try to get some of both whenever we see each other.”
“No matter if you are doing a quick hard fuck fueled by a need to consume each other or a slow teasing lovemaking with lots of eye contact and hand holding — they both work.”
And the succinct clincher of them all:
“Love making AND a good fuck.”
Most adulterers wanted both. It wasn’t just dirty cheating sex — it had romance and passion. Most lovers like to switch it up. Experimenting in an affair is one of its unique joys.
It’s not one or the other.
Usually ending in the both of you in a sweaty orgasmic pile with a smile plastered on your faces.
It’s getting hot in here and I’m sad summer is ending:
It may depend upon the length of the affair, and type of affair. For example, if you travel together i.e. for work where you basically live together for multiple days at a time, it gives you the opportunity to do any and everything all on the company dime. 😎 There's pleasure in that, btw....
Sure there's straight up exhaustive fucking where you're both sore as hell and both reaching for bottles of water during the break. But you're also both afforded the length of time to really get to know each other, the quirks of bedtime, morning, etc. where yeah, you don't want to keep your hands off each other, but you have to be serious and work for a while before you can turn back into your 'after work' selves. Believe it or not, this allowed plenty of time to REALLY get to know each other and talk; at dinner, just sitting in bed, driving around, etc.
To me, this was the most intimate of our interactions and this would lead to the most incredible lovemaking later in the night. I'm talking that other level of passion where you really felt like your souls connected.
For anyone that hasn't experienced that with an affair partner, it's just a whole other level of emotion.
Beautiful