For me, sex is the grease.
Huh? You might ask.
Sex is what lubricates the gears of a romantic relationship. Without sex, I find that small annoyances of day-to-day life begin to build up.
If my partner gives me a satisfying orgasm regularly, I don’t get as upset. I see him as still wanting to please me.
“Babe, thanks for that this morning. It was SO HOT.”
”Anything for you, babe,” he’d respond.
Part of it is the praise and worship during the sexual act. The other part is the closeness and intimacy of joining our two bodies. It makes me appreciate what we have all over again.
“Baby, you satisfy that cock.”
”You are such a good girl.”
”I want to please you just the way you want.”
”You’re my queen.”
”I love your body.”
Those words are part of the grease (the other part is outside the bedroom).
“We’re so good together,” I remember.
Good sex makes up for a lot of problems in a relationship.
He’s inconsiderate?
Is she selfish?
Then your mind goes to your dead bedroom. “We don’t even touch!” you think to yourself. Why should I even try to be a better spouse? They aren’t! Those little (and sometimes not-so-little) frustrations chip away at a union's foundation over time.
Resentment builds.
Then, the machine stops working. The gears need lubricating. Everyone has a short fuse.
“You always do….”
”You never do….”
Have you noticed that these two sentences never end well? A lack of desire leads to anger, which fuels a cycle of avoidance. You get frustrated and push your partner away with harsh words, and then they avoid intimacy.
Sex isn’t a cure, but it keeps the cracks in a relationship from becoming larger. It releases tension.
Sex is the oil in the engine of a marriage.
What do you think? Is sex the grease? Tell me in the comments.
Sex IS the grease . . . and Marvin, RIP, was one of the all-time-greasiest sexual healers. Thank you for sex-positivity and throbbing-meat sex and sex worship in the stars and and and . . . .
Best, hot jam, EVER! Love you Marvin!!